My birthday. Thirty-five. The midpoint of something — though I don't know of what. Halfway through a life? Halfway through the book's journey to publication? Halfway through Amma's disease? I don't know. I just know that thirty-five feels like standing at the center of a bridge, looking both ways.
Amma made the birthday dinner. She insisted — the same insistence she's always had, the stubbornness that predates the disease and will outlast it. Sambar rice, potato roast, pepper rasam. The menu of every birthday.
But this year she needed help. Not much — I peeled the potatoes, I ground the sambar powder. The main production was hers. But the help was new. The help was a line crossed.
"You're helping," she said, not as a question.
"We're cooking together."
"I don't need help."
"I know. I want to be here."
She accepted this. The distinction matters: not needing help but accepting company. A woman who has cooked alone for forty years allowing her daughter to stand beside her. Not because the disease requires it but because the daughter wants it. Or both.
Appa's card: thirty-five years unbroken. This year's note: "You are everything we came to America for. — Appa." Nine words. The most he's ever written. The most he's ever said about why they left India.
Everything we came to America for. A pharmacist. A writer. A mother. A cook. A daughter who stands beside her mother at the stove and peels potatoes and pretends it's just company and not the beginning of the transfer of everything.
I made nothing for my own birthday. Amma made it all. Because she can. Because she insists. Because the day she stops insisting is the day I'm not ready for.
The potato roast was perfect. Thirty-five years of perfect potato roast. The most consistent recipe in a life full of inconsistency.
Happy birthday to me. Happy cooking to Amma. For as long as she can. For as long as the potatoes are golden and the pepper rasam clears and the woman at the stove is still, unmistakably, herself.
Amma’s potato roast will always belong to her — I won’t pretend otherwise, and I wouldn’t try to replicate it. But in the weeks after thirty-five, I found myself craving that same feeling: small pieces of root vegetable going golden and crisp in hot, spiced oil, the kitchen filling with something that smells like being taken care of. Air-fried radishes surprised me the way good food sometimes does — they blister and caramelize in a way that echoes a proper roast, and seasoned simply with the spices already in my pantry, they carry just enough of that spirit to feel like a bridge between her kitchen and mine. This isn’t Amma’s recipe. It’s the one I make when I want to remember what her recipe feels like.
Air-Fried Radishes
Prep Time: 10 minutes | Cook Time: 18 minutes | Total Time: 28 minutes | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 1 lb radishes, trimmed and halved (or quartered if large)
- 1 1/2 tablespoons olive oil or neutral oil
- 1/2 teaspoon mustard seeds
- 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
- 1/2 teaspoon smoked paprika
- 1/4 teaspoon turmeric
- 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper (adjust to taste)
- 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt, plus more to taste
- 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
- 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice
- 2 tablespoons fresh cilantro, roughly chopped (optional, for serving)
Instructions
- Preheat the air fryer. Set your air fryer to 400°F (200°C) and allow it to preheat for 3 minutes while you prepare the radishes.
- Trim and cut. Wash and dry the radishes thoroughly. Trim the tops and tails, then halve each radish lengthwise. If any are very large, quarter them so pieces are roughly uniform in size for even cooking.
- Season. In a medium bowl, toss the halved radishes with oil until evenly coated. Add the mustard seeds, cumin, smoked paprika, turmeric, cayenne, salt, and black pepper. Toss again until every piece is well seasoned.
- Air fry. Arrange the radishes in a single layer in the air fryer basket, cut side down. Do not overcrowd — work in batches if needed. Air fry for 15–18 minutes, shaking the basket halfway through, until the radishes are golden at the edges and tender at the center.
- Finish and serve. Transfer the roasted radishes to a serving dish and immediately drizzle with fresh lemon juice. Taste and adjust salt. Scatter chopped cilantro over the top if using, and serve hot as a side dish.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 75 | Protein: 1g | Fat: 5g | Carbs: 7g | Fiber: 2g | Sodium: 290mg
About the cook who shared this
Priya Krishnamurthy
Week 315 of Priya’s 30-year story
· Edison, New Jersey
Priya is a pharmacist, wife, and mom of two in Edison, New Jersey — the town she grew up in, surrounded by the sights and smells of her mother's South Indian kitchen. These days, she splits her time between the hospital pharmacy, school pickups, and her own kitchen, where she cooks nearly every night. Her style is a blend of the Tamil recipes her mother taught her and the American comfort food her kids actually want to eat. She writes about the beautiful mess of balancing two cultures on one plate — and she wants you to know that ordering pizza is also an act of love.