Donna and Kevin visit. The first in-person visit since Caleb's birthday last year at Twentynine Palms. They flew to California — Dad's first plane ride since retiring from the Navy, which he handled with the stoic endurance of a man who has been on military transports in worse conditions.
They arrived Friday evening. Dad walked into the apartment, looked at the kitchen, and said: 'Five square feet. Much better.'
He examined the potted tomato plants on the patio. He examined them with the focus of a surgeon reviewing scans. 'Good growth. Strong stems. You're doing well, Rachel.'
Not 'the plants are doing well.' 'YOU'RE doing well.' Because the plants are me. The gardening is me. The growing is me.
Mom assessed the apartment (forty-five seconds, systematic). Verdict: 'Clean. Better than the desert. The grout is acceptable.'
Acceptable grout. From Donna, that's a standing ovation.
They met Hazel properly — not through FaceTime, not through photos, but IN PERSON. Dad held her and she grabbed his nose (just like Caleb did) and he laughed (just like he laughed for Caleb) and the same magic happened: a veteran's laugh, a baby's fingers, the war going quiet for one impossible second.
Mom held Hazel and cooked at the same time — one arm baby, one arm stirring, the way she held me and Megan while cooking during deployments. 'You learn to cook one-handed,' she told me once. Now I know. Now I've done it.
The weekend was food. Obviously. Mom cooked Saturday dinner (her pot roast — in MY kitchen, at MY stove, with MY oven that runs fifteen degrees hot, which she adjusted without being told because Donna Abernathy adapts to any oven within thirty seconds). I cooked Sunday dinner (my short ribs — Soo-Jin's recipe — and Mom tasted them and said, 'These are excellent. Where did you learn this?').
'A friend at Pendleton. Korean-American. Military wife. She taught me.'
Mom nodded. 'The best recipes come from friends at bases. That's how I learned half of mine.'
The chain. Acknowledged by the woman who started it.
Dad planted new tomato seedlings in my pots. He's refreshing the line. New generation of seeds, Norfolk-to-California.
The visit was four days. Not enough. Never enough.
But the tomatoes are planted. The pot roast was made. And Hazel grabbed Grandpa's nose.
Some things are enough.
The short ribs were Sunday’s main event — Soo-Jin’s recipe, the one Mom called “excellent” — but this air-fryer almond chicken has become my weeknight answer to that same craving for something crispy, warm, and worth sitting down together for. It’s the kind of dish I can make one-handed while holding Hazel, the way Mom taught me without ever saying a word, and it’s the kind of dinner that earns a nod from Donna Abernathy — which, as you now know, is the highest compliment in any kitchen.
Air-Fryer Almond Chicken
Prep Time: 15 minutes | Cook Time: 12 minutes | Total Time: 27 minutes | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts (about 6 oz each)
- 1 cup sliced almonds, roughly crushed
- 1/2 cup panko breadcrumbs
- 1/2 cup all-purpose flour
- 2 large eggs
- 1 tablespoon soy sauce
- 1 teaspoon garlic powder
- 1 teaspoon onion powder
- 1/2 teaspoon smoked paprika
- 1/2 teaspoon salt
- 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
- Cooking spray
Instructions
- Prep the chicken. Pat chicken breasts dry with paper towels. If thick, pound to an even 3/4-inch thickness so they cook evenly in the air fryer.
- Set up the breading station. Place flour in a shallow dish. In a second dish, whisk eggs with soy sauce. In a third dish, combine crushed almonds, panko, garlic powder, onion powder, smoked paprika, salt, and pepper.
- Bread the chicken. Dredge each breast in flour, shaking off excess. Dip into the egg mixture, then press firmly into the almond-panko coating, turning to cover all sides.
- Preheat the air fryer. Set air fryer to 375°F and preheat for 3 minutes.
- Air fry. Lightly spray the air fryer basket with cooking spray. Place chicken in a single layer (work in batches if needed). Spray tops of chicken lightly with cooking spray. Cook for 6 minutes, flip carefully, spray again, and cook for another 5–6 minutes until the internal temperature reaches 165°F and the coating is deep golden and crispy.
- Rest and serve. Let chicken rest on a cutting board for 3 minutes before slicing. Serve with steamed rice and your favorite vegetable.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 385 | Protein: 42g | Fat: 16g | Carbs: 18g | Fiber: 3g | Sodium: 520mg
About the cook who shared this
Rachel Abernathy
Week 333 of Rachel’s 30-year story
· San Diego, California
Rachel is a twenty-eight-year-old Marine wife and mom of two who has moved five times in six years and learned to cook a Thanksgiving dinner with half her cookware still in boxes. She married young, survived postpartum depression, and feeds her family of four on a junior Marine's salary with a freezer full of pre-made meals and a crockpot that has never let her down. She writes for the military spouses who are cooking dinner alone in base housing and wondering if they're enough. You are.