Paul went to the doctor on Thursday. I didn't go with him because he asked me not to. "It's a checkup, Linda. I don't need my wife holding my hand." He paused. "Though I appreciate that my wife could hold my hand, medically, better than most."
I let him go alone because marriage requires letting your spouse be a person separate from you, even when every cell in your body wants to be in that examination room, reading the doctor's face, asking the questions Paul won't think to ask.
He came home at four. I was in the garden, pulling weeds, which is what I do when I need to do something with my hands that isn't wringing them. He walked into the backyard and said, "The doctor thinks it's carpal tunnel. He's referring me to a specialist." I said, "When?" He said, "August." I said, "Good."
Carpal tunnel. The most benign item on my differential. The thing I told myself it probably was. The doctor agrees. A specialist will confirm. They'll do a nerve conduction study, they'll find compression at the wrist, they'll fit him with a brace or do a minor surgery and the clumsiness will stop and I'll stop watching his hand at breakfast and we'll go back to normal.
I believe this. I'm choosing to believe this.
The garden is in full production and it helped — you can't spiral into anxiety when the tomatoes need caging and the cucumbers need picking and the dill has staged a hostile takeover of the herb section. I picked a colander of cherry tomatoes and a basket of cucumbers and the work was physical and real and the sun was hot on my neck and Sven was lying in the shade watching me with his patient eyes and the world felt solid and present.
I made a garden feast for dinner: grilled zucchini, tomato salad with basil and fresh mozzarella, corn on the cob (not from the garden — corn doesn't grow well this far north), and grilled sausages because Paul was raised on summer grilling and considers it an essential July activity.
We ate on the porch. The lake was visible through the trees. Paul used both hands. His left hand held the corn. His right hand salted it. Normal movements. Normal dinner. Normal summer.
I cleaned up and Paul read on the porch until the light faded and I stood in the kitchen washing dishes and watching him through the window — his profile, his glasses, the book in his hands, the way his shoulders curve when he reads — and I thought: carpal tunnel. Just carpal tunnel. The specialist will confirm.
I wiped the counter and put the dishes away and went to bed and Paul was already asleep and I lay next to him in the dark and listened to him breathe and his breathing was normal, his breathing was absolutely normal, and I fell asleep telling myself that normal breathing means everything is normal, which is not how medicine works but is how hope works at eleven PM in July.
The garden gave me something to do with my hands that afternoon, and then it gave me dinner. This sweet and sour zucchini salad was exactly what the evening called for — something bright and garden-fresh and a little tangy, the kind of dish that tastes like July when July is being kind to you. I pulled the zucchini straight from the vine and the cherry tomatoes from the colander I’d already filled, and making it felt less like cooking and more like just continuing what the afternoon had already started. It sat on the porch table next to the grilled sausages and the corn, and Paul reached for seconds, with both hands, and that was enough.
Sweet and Sour Zucchini Salad
Prep Time: 15 min | Cook Time: 0 min | Total Time: 25 min (plus 10 min rest) | Servings: 4–6
Ingredients
- 3 medium zucchini (about 1 1/2 lbs), thinly sliced into rounds or half-moons
- 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved
- 1/4 red onion, very thinly sliced
- 1/3 cup fresh basil leaves, torn
- 1/4 cup white wine vinegar
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 1 tablespoon honey
- 1 teaspoon granulated sugar
- 1/2 teaspoon Dijon mustard
- 1 small clove garlic, minced or grated
- 1/2 teaspoon salt, plus more to taste
- 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
- Optional: 2 oz fresh mozzarella, torn, or a handful of crumbled feta
Instructions
- Salt the zucchini. Place the sliced zucchini in a colander set over the sink or a bowl. Sprinkle with 1/2 teaspoon salt, toss gently, and let sit for 10 minutes. This draws out excess moisture so the salad doesn’t get watery. Pat dry with a clean kitchen towel.
- Make the dressing. In a small bowl or jar, whisk together the white wine vinegar, olive oil, honey, sugar, Dijon mustard, and garlic until well combined. Taste and adjust — it should be noticeably tangy with a gentle sweetness behind it.
- Combine the salad. In a large bowl, combine the dried zucchini, cherry tomatoes, and red onion. Pour the dressing over the top and toss well to coat.
- Rest briefly. Let the salad sit at room temperature for 5–10 minutes before serving. The zucchini will soften slightly and absorb the dressing — this is what you want.
- Finish and serve. Scatter the torn basil over the top. Add mozzarella or feta if using. Give it one final gentle toss, taste for salt, and serve at room temperature or slightly chilled.
Nutrition (per serving, based on 5 servings, without cheese)
Calories: 72 | Protein: 2g | Fat: 4g | Carbs: 9g | Fiber: 1g | Sodium: 210mg
About the cook who shared this
Linda Johansson
Week 68 of Linda’s 30-year story
· Duluth, Minnesota
Linda is a sixty-three-year-old retired nurse from Duluth, Minnesota, living alone in the house where she raised her children and said goodbye to her husband. She lost Paul to ALS in 2020 after two years of watching the kindest man she'd ever known lose everything but his dignity. She cooks Scandinavian comfort food and Minnesota hotdish and the pot roast Paul loved, and she sets two places at the table out of habit because it makes her feel less alone. Every recipe she writes is a person she's loved.