Lily called in February to tell me she'd been offered a postdoctoral position at a university in Albuquerque studying Indigenous food sovereignty in the Southwest. It was a two-year position and she was thinking about it seriously. She and Ben had talked about it. He could work remotely. The opportunity was real.
I sat with this for a day before responding. On one hand: it was exactly the kind of thing she'd been working toward, an expansion of her research into a connected field, a network she didn't have yet. On the other hand: she's been three hours away and this would be more than a day's drive. I'd miss her in a specific way that I couldn't entirely justify keeping her from the work she needed to do.
I called her back and said take it. She said she was going to. She said she'd wanted to hear me say so. I said that's what big brothers are for.
Made dinner for her and Ben when they came through Kenwood in late February on their way west to look at housing. I cooked for hours: the bean bread, the fry bread, the backstrap from the November deer, the grape dumplings I'd made at Christmas but did again because she asked. She ate slowly and deliberately the way you eat when you know you're eating something you'll be far from for a while.
Ben, who is a quietly perceptive person, took a photo of Lily eating at my kitchen table and showed it to her later. She said it's the happiest she looks in any photo she owns. I believe it. That kitchen is the place we were both shaped and fed and it will be here when she comes back through.
The meal I made Lily that night in Kenwood was a long one—hours at the stove, dishes she’d grown up eating, things that take time because time is what they deserve. But the recipe I keep coming back to in the weeks since they drove west is this one: Sweet Potato Bean Quesadillas, which carry the same warmth and earthiness of that table without requiring a full afternoon. It’s Southwestern in a way that feels right given where she landed, and the beans root it in something familiar—the same quiet, filling kindness I was trying to put into everything I made her that night.
Sweet Potato Bean Quesadillas
Prep Time: 15 min | Cook Time: 25 min | Total Time: 40 min | Servings: 4
Ingredients
- 1 large sweet potato, peeled and diced into 1/2-inch cubes
- 1 can (15 oz) black beans, drained and rinsed
- 1 cup shredded Monterey Jack or pepper jack cheese
- 4 large flour tortillas (10-inch)
- 1/2 small red onion, finely diced
- 1 clove garlic, minced
- 1 teaspoon ground cumin
- 1/2 teaspoon smoked paprika
- 1/4 teaspoon chili powder
- Salt and black pepper to taste
- 2 tablespoons olive oil, divided
- Sour cream, salsa, or sliced avocado for serving
Instructions
- Roast the sweet potato. Preheat oven to 400°F. Toss diced sweet potato with 1 tablespoon olive oil, cumin, paprika, chili powder, salt, and pepper. Spread on a baking sheet in a single layer and roast 20–22 minutes, until tender and lightly caramelized at the edges.
- Saute the aromatics. While the sweet potato roasts, heat the remaining tablespoon of olive oil in a skillet over medium heat. Add the red onion and cook 3–4 minutes until softened. Add garlic and cook another 30 seconds. Add black beans, stir to combine, and cook 2 minutes until warmed through. Season with salt and pepper.
- Combine the filling. Remove sweet potato from the oven. Add to the skillet with the bean mixture and stir gently to combine, keeping some sweet potato pieces intact for texture.
- Assemble the quesadillas. Lay a tortilla flat. Spread a generous portion of the sweet potato and bean filling over one half. Top with a handful of shredded cheese. Fold the tortilla over.
- Cook until golden. Heat a large skillet or griddle over medium heat. Cook each quesadilla 2–3 minutes per side, pressing lightly with a spatula, until the tortilla is golden and crisp and the cheese is fully melted.
- Slice and serve. Cut each quesadilla into 3 wedges and serve immediately with sour cream, salsa, or avocado alongside.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 420 | Protein: 16g | Fat: 14g | Carbs: 58g | Fiber: 9g | Sodium: 540mg