Halloween. Anaya's third. She chose her own costume again — this year: a chef. A tiny chef's hat (purchased), a tiny apron (hand-sewn by Pushpa, who is campaigning for grandmother-of-the-year through crafts), and a wooden spoon from her kitchen drawer, wielded like a scepter.
"I'm a cook!" she announced to every house on the block.
"What do you cook?" one neighbor asked.
"SAMBAR!" she shouted, with the conviction of a two-and-a-half-year-old who has watched sambar being made approximately three hundred times and considers herself an expert.
Amma accompanied us again — masked, outdoors, walking slowly behind as Anaya careened from house to house collecting candy she's too young to fully appreciate. Amma held her hand at crossings. Anaya held her wooden spoon.
I photographed them from behind: the grandmother in the mask and sari, the toddler in the chef's hat, walking hand in hand down a sidewalk in Edison, New Jersey, on Halloween. The photo went on the blog with the caption: "My daughter dressed as a chef for Halloween. She says she cooks sambar. Her grandmother taught her without either of them knowing it was a lesson."
The post got shared widely. People love a child in a chef costume. People love even more the idea that kitchens teach without trying — that the act of watching is learning, that the act of being present is a curriculum.
I made Amma's adhirasam alongside the mandatory Halloween candy. Indian sweets and American candy on the same table. Both/and. Always both/and.
Anaya ate three pieces of candy and one adhirasam and declared the adhirasam "better" which is either genuine culinary preference or the influence of a grandmother who has been campaigning against American chocolate since 1985.
Either way: the chef chooses adhirasam. Amma wins.
That Halloween table — adhirasam on one side, candy on the other — is the image I keep coming back to. Both/and has always been our household’s operating principle, and it deserves a recipe that lives in that same spirit: something golden, dense, and unapologetically sweet, made from pantry staples, humble enough to sit beside anything. Blond butterscotch brownies have that quality. They don’t compete; they belong. And if Amma can win a toddler’s heart with a fried rice-and-jaggery sweet, I figure the rest of us can try our best with brown sugar and butter and call it a worthy effort.
Blond Butterscotch Brownies
Prep Time: 10 minutes | Cook Time: 25 minutes | Total Time: 35 minutes | Servings: 16 bars
Ingredients
- 1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter, melted and slightly cooled
- 2 cups packed light brown sugar
- 2 large eggs, room temperature
- 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract
- 2 cups all-purpose flour
- 2 teaspoons baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon fine sea salt
- 1 cup chopped walnuts or pecans (optional)
Instructions
- Preheat and prep. Heat your oven to 350°F (175°C). Grease a 9x13-inch baking pan and line with parchment paper, leaving a small overhang on two sides for easy lifting.
- Combine butter and sugar. In a large bowl, whisk the melted butter and brown sugar together until smooth and glossy, about 1 minute. The mixture will look like wet sand at first, then come together.
- Add eggs and vanilla. Add the eggs one at a time, whisking well after each addition. Stir in the vanilla extract. The batter should look thick and shiny.
- Fold in the dry ingredients. Add the flour, baking powder, and salt. Stir with a wooden spoon or rubber spatula until just combined — do not overmix. Fold in the nuts, if using.
- Spread and bake. Transfer the batter to the prepared pan and spread it evenly to the edges (it will be thick). Bake for 23–26 minutes, until the top is golden brown and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out with just a few moist crumbs.
- Cool completely before cutting. Let the pan cool on a wire rack for at least 20 minutes. Use the parchment overhang to lift the slab out, then cut into 16 bars. They firm up as they cool — resist the urge to cut them too early.
Nutrition (per serving)
Calories: 215 | Protein: 3g | Fat: 7g | Carbs: 36g | Fiber: 1g | Sodium: 110mg
About the cook who shared this
Priya Krishnamurthy
Week 237 of Priya’s 30-year story
· Edison, New Jersey
Priya is a pharmacist, wife, and mom of two in Edison, New Jersey — the town she grew up in, surrounded by the sights and smells of her mother's South Indian kitchen. These days, she splits her time between the hospital pharmacy, school pickups, and her own kitchen, where she cooks nearly every night. Her style is a blend of the Tamil recipes her mother taught her and the American comfort food her kids actually want to eat. She writes about the beautiful mess of balancing two cultures on one plate — and she wants you to know that ordering pizza is also an act of love.